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What Happens If They Freak Out?? | How to Tell Your Partner You're Kinky Part 3
In the final installment of this special three-part solo series, I am breaking down what to do if your partner says no or freaks out when you share your kink.
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In part two of this special three-part solo series, I am breaking down exactly how to have the conversation with your partner about your kink.
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DOM Energy 2.0
You Already Know You Have It. Now Let's Go Deeper. For the DOMs, switches, and curious souls who've done the work, and are ready to stop playing it safe.
Tap into Your DOM Energy: 1-Hour Masterclass
Master your DOM energy in a 1-hour lesson and workbook packed with prompts & guides to boost your confidence, communication, and connection.
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Master your submissive side in a 1-hour lesson plus workbook full of prompts & guides to deepen trust, communication, and connection.
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From Overwhelmed to Empowered: Let’s Untangle It Together
Feeling stuck, unsure, or intimidated by your dating life, kink dynamics, or personal relationships? In a 1-on-1 session, we’ll cut through the noise and build a roadmap tailored to your desires and boundaries. You’ll leave feeling clear, confident, and ready to take action, whether that’s navigating tough conversations, stepping into your role with pride, or finding the connection you’ve been craving.
Swipe Right with Confidence
Craft a dating profile that stands out, clearly communicates your desires, and sets the stage for open, honest first-date conversations about kink.
This is MeBuild Connection, Not Conflict
Differing desires don’t have to derail your relationship. Let’s navigate preferences, foster open communication, and create a shared path to deeper intimacy and alignment..
This is MeMaster Your Craft
Ready to dive deeper into BDSM but not sure where to start? Whether you're curious about roles, eager to refine your skills, or looking to confidently wield implements, I’ve got you covered with guidance, tips, and hands-on advice tailored to your journey.
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Welcome to The Kink Consultant podcast, where we’re turning up the heat on all things kink in dating, relationships, and pop culture! Join Amanda each week as she dishes out the juiciest stories, expert advice, and shares a sneak peek behind the bedroom door, with some amazing guests along for the ride. Whether you're just a little kink-curious, ready to spice things up, or a seasoned pro, there's something here for you! Expect fun, laughter, and a whole lot of eye-opening conversations as we explore the wild world of intimacy, kink, and those oh-so-intriguing D/s dynamics.
What Happens If They Freak Out?? | How to Tell Your Partner You're Kinky Part 3
In the final installment of this special three-part solo series, I am breaking down what to do if your partner says no or freaks out when you share your kink.
The Kink Conversation with Your Partner | How to Tell Your Partner You're Kinky Part 2
In part two of this special three-part solo series, I am breaking down exactly how to have the conversation with your partner about your kink.
How to Tell Your Partner You're Kinky - Part 1
In the first episode of a special three-part solo series, I am breaking down everything you need to know before you tell your partner you are kinky.
How to Build a Sex Room That Works For You with Melanie Rose
Melanie Rose, star of Netflix's How to Build a Sex Room, joins the podcast to discuss sex room design, the history of sex toys, and how to create a pleasure space that works for your body and your relationship.
How to Evolve Your Dynamic Without Losing Each Other: A 24/7 D/S Dynamic Story with Saffer Master and Lady Petra
The hosts of The Kinky Cocktail Hour join the podcast to share their 24/7 D/S dynamic story, how they evolved their relationship over time, and why kink is the way they communicate.
What Working Out, Binge-Eating, and Kink Have In Common with Fitrix Carmilla Vess
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Life-Changing Kink Stories: What Happens When You Finally Listen to Your Kink?
Four real people, four very different kink journeys, and a whole lot of proof that listening to your kink can actually change your life.
How to Talk to Your Partner About Your Deepest Fantasies with Dr. Stacy Friedman
Clinical sexologist Dr. Stacy Friedman joins the podcast to discuss how to talk to your partner about your deepest fantasies, navigate midlife desire, and advocate for your sexual health.
Psychedelics, Kink, and Coming Home to Your Body with Allana Pratt
Emotional intimacy coach Allana Pratt joins the podcast to discuss psychedelics, kink, and coming home to your body through healing trauma and somatic integration work.
Why Dismantling the Patriarchy Will Give You Better Sex with Samia Mounts
Samia Mounts returns for a deep conversation on dismantling the patriarchy, polyamory, and how we can all break free from the systems that hold us back.
on Female Desire, Mental Load, and Mismatched Libido with Caroline Hood
Licensed clinician and author Caroline Hood joins the podcast to discuss the truth about female desire, the impact of mental load, and how to navigate mismatched libido in relationships.
ADHD, Kink, and Neurodivergent Relationships with Catieosaurus
Cate Osborn aka Catieosaurus returns to discuss ADHD, kink, neurodivergent relationships, and how to build sustainable dynamics that work with your brain.
A Guide to Setting Boundaries in Kink with Melancholy Ghost
Melancholy Ghost, Missouri title holder and boundaries educator, joins the podcast to discuss how to set, communicate, and protect boundaries in kink.
How to Navigate a 24/7 Dynamic: A Conversation on Boundaries and Communication with My Dom
Amanda and her dom sit down for an honest conversation about how they navigate boundaries, fear, and communication in their 24/7 dynamic.
Hot Girl Energy: How to Date Without Losing Yourself with Kristen Aut
Kristen Aut returns to discuss how to date without losing yourself, break free from obsessive patterns, and step into your Hot Girl Energy this summer.
How to Tell Your Partner About Your Fetish with Miz Darling
Miz Darling returns to discuss how to tell your partner about your fetish, navigate shame and fear, and build healthy relationships around kink.
Kinky Cruises, Chastity Cages, and Social Media Bans with Larah Sky
Book A Consult Call with Amanda https://www.amandadames.com/book-a-consultLarah Sky is back for another unfiltered conversation covering social media frustrations, kink cruise experiences, and chastity culture.
Relationship Advice for Kinky Couples with Simone Milasas
Kinky relationships and vanilla relationships might have more in common than you think.
Emotional Masculinity: Breaking Down Toxic Masculinity, the Manosphere, and Real Intimacy with Matt Salis
Why does the word "masculinity" feel so loaded? I went looking for answers, and found the perfect person to break it down.
Finding Your Kinky Match: A Conversation with Kink Matchmaker Shea Primus
Finding your perfect match is already hard enough. Now try finding one who also matches you in the kink department.
How to Be Kinky as a Parent: Raising A Child Without Losing Your Dynamic with Athena Gale
Ever wondered what life looks like when you have a 24/7 kink dynamic, a career in the sex space, and a child to raise? Get seated because Athena Gale is giving us a sneak peek of what it actually looks like.
A Beginner’s Guide to Kink, Fetishes, and BDSM: An Interview with Dr. Bruce Chalmer and Judy Alexander
I was invited onto the podcast Couples Therapy in 7 Words with Dr. Bruce Chalmer and Judy Alexander, two proudly vanilla people who sat down with me to ask the exact questions so many people secretly have about kink, BDSM, fetishes, sexual shame, and desire. I loved this conversation so much that I immediately asked if I could re-share it here for all of you.
How to Bring Up Kink Without Sounding Creepy with Connell Barrett
Dating coach, Connell Barrett returns to the podcast and this time we’re diving into one of the biggest questions people struggle with in dating: how the hell do you actually bring up kink?
Dating Advice for Men & Women: Flirting, Confidence and Attraction with Connell Barrett
Flirting is supposed to be fun, not complicated.
Answering Your Most Common Kink Questions
I have combined my most popular solo episodes to answer your most asked questions about kink, BDSM, dom/sub dynamics, and relationships.
The Life And Loves Of A Sex Writer with Gabrielle Cassel
You’d think being a sex writer would make dating easier, right? Apparently not.
Larah Sky’s Dating Preferences: Complicated, Specific, and Slightly Unhinged
Back for the third time, we’re joined by everybody’s favourite guest, Larah Sky.
How To Dom When You’re A Sub
How does one really become a Dom? In this episode, I answer one of the most frequently asked questions from my Ask Me Anything Mondays which is: how do I become a Dom? And more importantly, how do you do it without feeling awkward, forced, or like you’re playing a role that doesn’t actually fit you? We get into why so many people feel pressure to “perform” dominance, and why that’s usually the thing getting in your way. I walk you through what Dom energy actually is, which is less about control and more about presence, and how you’re creating a space or “bubble” that your submissive steps into. We also talk about different styles of Doming, why you don’t have to be the kind of Dom you’re used to receiving, and how asking questions and actually listening is one of the most underrated skills you can have.
I’m Rebuilding My Life…Again
Back by popular demand, my Biz Dom, Brenda joins me in this episode to talk about what the past year has actually looked like for me. We get into what it means to rebuild your life more than once, and what it’s like being in a 24/7 Dom sub dynamic that feels aligned and expansive while still navigating very real emotions like grief, uncertainty, and starting over. Brenda came prepared with questions that pushed me to slow down, reflect, and actually look at what this season of my life is asking from me.
How A Kinky Throuple Relationship Actually Works with Carnivale Risque
Let’s be honest, most people hear “throuple” and immediately assume chaos, jealousy, or some kind of messy situation waiting to happen.
Dominatrix 101: Negotiation, Limits, and Creating a Safe BDSM Scene with Mistress Tash Mia
What if the “perfect Dom” isn’t dark, scary, and mean… but sarcastic, grounded, and deeply present?
What Is Shibari? A Conversation On Rope Bondage with Julieta Chiara
She started as a sex blogger in Utah, flew to Japan to train under a Shibari master whose stare alone made her cry, and never looked back.
Behind The Scenes of Rouge: The Sexiest Show In Vegas with Zion and Poppy
The kinkiest show in Vegas is hosted by the most vanilla couple you'll ever meet.
How To Use Hypnotherapy for Better Sex with Jordan Wolan
What if you could rewire how your brain stores pleasure in just one session?
Sex Magic, Sigils, and Masturbating to Your Manifestations: A Conversation on Sex Alchemy with Lucy Baldwin
Sex magic is real. And no, this isn't some Harry Potter stuff. This is actual ritual work that could change how you manifest, orgasm, and deal with your anger.
Can Doms Be Brats? The Debate That Broke KinkTok. A Discussion On Kink Theory, BDSM and Power Exchange
Can doms be brats? Tripp Terrier says no, and the Internet lost its mind, and honestly he's not wrong.
How to Prepare for Your First Kinky Cruise with Concations and Carnivale Risque
Not sure what to expect on a kinky cruise? You're about to find out, and it's way more fun (and safe) than you think!
Performance Anxiety, Erectile Dysfunction, Getting Soft? How to have Better Sex: A Conversation with Promescent CEO, Jeff Abraham
Better sex isn't a luxury, it's accessible. And if you're not exploring what's out there to improve your intimacy, you're leaving pleasure on the table.
Behind The Scenes of A Non-Monogamouse Relationship (And Why It Actually Works)
Non-monogamy isn't actually that complicated…our fear of talking about it is. And that fear keeps way too many people stuck pretending they want something they don't.
Intimacy Isn't A Feeling, It's A Skill: An Interview With The Somatica Founders
What if intimacy didn’t have to feel so hard, awkward, or overthought?
Sex Crimes Prosecutor Turned Women’s Intimacy Coach - A Conversation with Rena Martine
Let's talk about the thing no one wants to touch: DDLG, innocence play, and why "daddy" has become the internet's new favorite word.
Biohacking Your Orgasm with Susan Bratton
You heard it here first: sex gets better as you age. Don’t believe me? Listen to this episode.
Why Obsession Happens and Why Fighting It Makes It Worse with Kirsten Aut
Being obsessed with someone can be so embarrassing. Frankly, you barely even know this person but somehow your brain has decided that this person is now the main character of your life. Been there, done that.
5 BDSM Scene Ideas You’ll Want To Try Tonight with Alesandra of Dom Sub Living
Who says you need a dungeon or hours of planning for a night you’ll never forget? In this episode we're sharing 5 simple and powerful BDSM scene ideas you can use tonight—no fancy gear or prep required. From voice-only command scenes and sensory deprivation with household items, to secret service rituals, playful punishment games, and emotional restraint with praise, you’ll find inspiration for any dynamic. Plus, don’t miss the 5-minute scene challenge! Ready to make your night unforgettable? Check out our “Scene Creation Mastery” (only $9!) at https://domsubliving.com/scene-creation-mastery/
Great Sex Start with a Good Conversation with Dr. Tara
Talking about sex should not be this hard, and yet for so many people, it still is.
The Only Dating App That Understands Kink with Pieter of BeeDee App
One thing about kinky dating: it should not be this hard to find your people. Thankfully, BeeDee App exists and yes, I brought Pieter back on the podcast because a lot has happened since the first time he was here.
Q&A With My Dom Part 2: What Makes a Good Dom?
"The number one thing about being a Dom is you need to have the best interest of the other person in mind.You cannot take advantage of the other person because of their submissive role."
Q&A With My Dom Part 1: Where Can I Find A Dom?
One of the questions I get constantly is, “Where can I find a Dom?”
Strictly Anonymous Confessions: Behind the Secret Sex Stories with Kathy Kay
Strictly Anonymous Confessions: Secret Sex Lives of Total Strangers with Kathy Kay
When Your ADHD Brain Meets Your Kinky Side with Cate Osborn
What happens when your ADHD brain meets your kink identity? Turns out, they have a lot more in common than you might think.
Why People Cheat and What It Really Takes to Heal with Lauren LaRusso
What really happens after betrayal, and how do you start to heal when trust has been broken?
Behind the Scenes of Kink, Creativity, and Control with Beau Delacroix
Episode 56 - For Beau Delacroix, kink isn’t just play. It’s art, storytelling, and self-expression.
What Your Kinks Say About You (According to Psychology) with Aubrey Aust
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Everything You Need to Know Before Going Through the Back Door with Annette Benedetti
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What Happens On Kinky Cruises? With Lee of ConCations
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The Pleasure Protocol: BDSM, Coaching, and the Psychology of Power with Shelby Devlin
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When Pain Meets Pleasure: Behind the Scenes at Ripped Digital with Lucas & Hazel
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Temptation Cruises: What to Expect and Why You Should Experience It
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From Sexless September to Locktober: Why All Men Should Be Caged with Larah Sky
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Complicated Pleasures: Can Fetish, Kink, and Romance Coexist? with Miz Darling
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Dating Makeover: The Mistakes You Didn’t Know You Were Making with Lana Ricco
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What It Takes to Be a Global Content Creator: From Australia to England with Koby Falks
This episode was recorded weeks before Koby passed. We’re sharing it with love and gratitude, in memory of him. It’s a chance to hear his voice, his story, and his spirit one more time.
Design Your Dreamgirl: From Phone Sex to Camming with Pepper Kat
Episode 46 - What does your dream girl look like?
Impact Play Survival Guide: Skincare Tips from Flora
Episode 45 - Your butt cheeks also need some TLC…
What It’s Really Like Working as a Professional Dom: Behind the Scenes with Mistress Verna Part 2
Episode 44 -Think you could handle working in a professional dungeon? In this episode of The Kink Consultant, I’m back with Mistress Verna for Part 2 of our behind-the-scenes look at life as retired dominatrixes. We’re digging into how this work helped us explore and define our sexuality, the boundaries we had to build to stay safe, and the trust it took to thrive in a job built on power exchange.
What It’s Really Like Working as a Professional Dom: Behind the Scenes with Mistress Verna Part 1
Episode 43 - What really goes on behind the velvet curtain of a New York City dungeon? In this episode of The Kink Consultant, I catch up with my longtime friend and former dungeon-mate Mistress Verna to spill the tea on our years working as professional dominatrixes in one of the city's most infamous kink spaces.
Talking About Sex Is Hard But Squirm’s Tess and Kels Is Making It Sexy, Fun, and Shame-Free
Episode 42 -Why is it so hard to talk about sex, even with people we trust? In this episode of The Kink Consultant, I’m joined by Tess and Kels, co-founders of Squirm and co-hosts of the Porn Nerds podcast, to explore how we can make sex ed not just informative but also sexy, playful, and actually useful.
What Allows Us to Feel Safe in Relationships? Exploring Power, Kink, and Connection with Aubrey Aust
Episode 41 -What actually allows us to feel safe in relationships? In this episode of The Kink Consultant, I’m joined by Aubrey Aust, a Master’s student at NYU researching relational safety, who explores themes of attachment styles, somatics, and kink to examine the systems and sensations that shape how we connect with others.
What's It Like to Be a Cover Model? Jose and Mama on Romance, Kink, and Being the Fantasy
Episode 40 -Ever wondered what it’s like to be the face and body on the cover of your favorite romance novel? In this episode of The Kink Consultant, I sit down with real-life couple Jose and Andrea (aka Mama) to talk about what it’s like to build a modeling career out of smut, how kink became part of their dynamic, and the power of being seen, desired, and fully expressed.
Ep 39 - What It's Like to Hire a Pro Dom: Pleasure, Boundaries & Power Play with Sir Marvelous
What happens when a professional dom and pleasure coach sits down to unpack the psychology of kink, power, and pleasure?
Ep 38 - Making Kink Music That Matters: Deore on Community, Consent, and Crowdfunding Tantrums
My favorite kink singer-songwriter needs our help. Deore, the incredible artist behind the Brat EP, is back and this time, she’s gearing up to release a full-length concept album called Tantrums. But in true brat fashion, she’s doing it her way: no label, no safety net, and fully trusting her kinky, ride-or-die community to bring it to life.
Ep 37 - The Parallels of My Dating Life and Ali Hazelwood's The Deep End: A Dating Update and a Book Review From the Lens of The Kink Consultant
What happens when a self-proclaimed vanilla romance lover brings a spicy book to The Kink Consultant for a breakdown?
Ep 36 - When Spanking Is Core to Connection: Kai and Sarah on Building a Healthy Kink Relationship (Part 2)
Is it possible to find a partner that matches your freak? In Part 2 of my conversation with Kai and Sarah, we dig into what it really looks like to build a relationship around a shared spanking fetish, emotional compatibility, and a power exchange dynamic that works in real life, not just in fantasy.
Ep 35 – What It’s Really Like to Have a Spanking Fetish: Kai and Sarah’s Story of Suppression, Self-Acceptance, and Finding Each Other (Part 1)
What happens when two people spend years suppressing a core part of themselves only to realize that denying their identity comes at too high a cost? In this episode of The Kink Consultant, I sit down with Kai and Sarah for Part 1 of a powerful two-part series exploring how their shared spanking fetish shaped their personal growth, relationships, and ultimately, their path to each other.
Ep 34 - Chastity, Cages & Control: Larah Sky Talks About the Psychology Behind Power Play
What’s the deal with chastity and why are so many people obsessed with it?
Ep 33: Dating Update: How I Went From a Kinky FWB Breakup to a Guy Who Can't Even Text Back (Am I Bridget Jones?)
What actually happens when you walk away from a BDSM dynamic that no longer works, and end up with someone who still can’t meet your needs, even after you’ve communicated them clearly, more than once? In this episode of The Kink Consultant, I sit down with Brenda (aka my BizDom) to share an honest and frustrating update on my dating life.
Ep 32 - What Happens When a Married Couple Starts Swinging? This Couple Talks About Having Trust and Setting Boundaries Part 2
In this episode of The Kink Consultant, I’m back with Candace and Derek for Part 2 of our conversation, and trust me, it’s even juicier than the first. From pegging to big dick fantasies to how swinging became part of their love story. This is a real, vulnerable, and hilarious look into intimacy, growth, and letting go of shame.
Ep 31 - What Really Happens at a Sex Party? This Couple Talks About Sex Parties, Kink and Porn Addiction Part 1
What actually happens when a long-term monogamous couple decides to explore the world of sex parties and kink for the very first time? In this episode of The Kink Consultant, I sit down with married couple Derek and Candace, who share exactly what went down during their very first hotwife party weekend in Vegas.
Ep 30 - The Reality of Being a Kink Educator: Moxie Rose on TikTok, Sex Ed & Community
What happens when a sex educator builds a half-million-strong following by telling the unfiltered truth about kink, consent, and community?
Ep 29 - How to Talk Dirty with Confidence: Expert Tips from Luna Matas
Ep 29 - How to Talk Dirty with Confidence: Expert Tips from Luna Matas
Ep 28 - Sharing Real Intimacy Online: Ben and Jas on Relationships, Sex, and Communication
What happens when a couple decides to put the real parts of their relationship online—the good, the bad, and the brutally honest? In this episode of The Kink Consultant, I sit down with Ben and Jas, the wildly relatable couple behind one of Instagram’s most candid and inspiring sex-positive platforms. From viral videos to deep conversations about intimacy, communication, and kink exploration, Ben and Jas are showing the world what real connection actually looks like.
Ep 27 - Storytelling, Sex, and Safe Words: Exploring Kink and Intimacy with Nik the Forge Bear
What if erotic storytelling could teach you more about intimacy than a sex-ed class ever did? In this episode of The Kink Consultant, I’m joined by one of my favorite creators, Nik—also known as The Forge Bear—whose voice is as powerful as his presence. Nik takes us behind the scenes of his work as an audio erotica creator on Quinn and shares how he uses storytelling to explore sexual self-discovery, kink dynamics, and authentic connection.
Ep 26 - Exploring Little Space: A Conversation with Dove on Kink, Relationships, and Self-Discovery
What if the parts of you you’ve been told to suppress are actually your most authentic self? In this episode of The Kink Consultant, I sit down with Dove from @littlespaces.co to explore what it really means to be a little—from discovering the dynamic through romance novels to navigating shame, connection, and kink identity. Whether you’re new to the world of caregiver/little dynamics or curious about exploring it on your own, Dove’s story offers a rare blend of vulnerability and wisdom.
Ep 25 - Exploring Kink and Role Play with Saturday Box: A Chat with Emma Xin Velicky
In this episode of The Kink Consultant, I’m joined by the brilliant Emma Xin Velicky, founder of Saturday Box—a company designing immersive kink and roleplay experience kits for couples. Emma opens up about her personal evolution from a conservative, sex-negative upbringing to writing romance and co-creating a business that makes intimacy playful, safe, and accessible.
Ep 24 - Redefining Real Intimacy: How Make Love Not Porn is Changing the Conversation
Porn is reshaping how we view intimacy, and Make Love Not Porn is leading the charge. In this episode of The Kink Consultant, I sit down with Saniyyah Lateef, a curator for MLNP, to discuss how the platform is redefining adult content by showcasing real-world sex—authentic, unscripted, and deeply connected. We dive into how MLNP challenges mainstream porn stereotypes, promotes sex-positive representation, and ensures every submission prioritizes consent and authenticity.
Ep 23 - From Pec Popping to Daddy Dom: A Conversation on Creating Content and Kink Relationships with Dilly form The Life of Dillyyy
What do thirst traps, TikTok bans, and Daddy Dom dynamics have in common? In this episode of The Kink Consultant, I sit down with Dilly from @TheLifeofDillyy to talk about his journey from pec-popping TikToker to full-time content creator with a kinky twist. We get into the sensual (and hilarious) evolution of his online presence—and how stepping into his dominant energy opened the door to deeper connection, both on and offline.
Ep 22 - Kinky vs. Vanilla: Can Your Relationship Survive the Difference?
What happens when one partner is kinky and the other is strictly vanilla? Is it possible to find common ground, or are you setting yourself up for long-term frustration?
Ep 21 - Dominance & Submission 101: Communication, Boundaries & Building the Right Dynamic
Most people think a Dom/sub relationship is all about power and control—but the reality is, it lives and dies by communication. A strong D/s dynamic isn’t about one person calling all the shots while the other blindly obeys. It’s about negotiation, trust, and making sure both partners’ needs are met. So how do you create a dynamic that actually works? And more importantly, how do you avoid the common pitfalls that can turn power exchange into something unhealthy?
Ep 20: How to Find Your Kink Community: Safety, Red Flags & Building Real Connections
Finding your kink community can be a game-changer, but where do you even start? Finding the right community is about more than just showing up; it’s about knowing where to look, how to vet spaces, and making connections that actually feel good.
Ep 19 - Kink, Non-Monogamy & Redefining Relationships with CJ from No Shame with CJ
In this episode, I sit down with CJ from No Shame with CJ to dive into the complexities of kink, non-monogamy, and redefining relationship norms. As a fellow sex and relationship coach, CJ brings a unique perspective on what it means to explore ethical non-monogamy and how the language we use around relationships shapes our experiences.
Ep 18 - Dating Life Updates: Spanking Parties, Dating Drama & Unexpected Feelings
In this episode, I catch up with my biz dom, Brenda, for a deep dive into my latest dating escapades—from navigating kinky dating apps to almost getting stood up on a very public date. We talk about my upcoming spanking party, the struggles of meeting compatible partners, and why chemistry is everything (even when someone seems perfect on the app). Plus, I also share a deeply personal story about an unexpected loss and how it shifted my perspective on relationships, connection, and the role of friends with benefits.
Ep 17 - Answering Kink Questions and Discovering Dominance with Zach Moore
In this episode ofThe Kink Consultant, I sit down with my former personal trainer and newly single friend, Zach Moore, as he navigates dating after nearly 15 years in a relationship. From exploring kink on dating apps to discovering his dominant side, Zach shares his experiences with Field, primal play, DDLG dynamics, and learning the ropes (literally) of BDSM.
Ep 16 - Dirty Daddies Do Vegas: Creating Space for Every Story with Rayanna Jamison
In this episode of The Kink Consultant, I’m joined by the incredible Rayanna Jamison, USA Today bestselling author, co-founder of GTB Publishing, and organizer of the thriving Dirty Daddies community. We dive deep into her journey as an author, the growth of the Dirty Daddies Party Room, and the exciting plans for the upcoming "Dirty Daddies Do Vegas" convention.
Ep 15 – Sex-Ed, Kinks, and Being Open-Minded: A Conversation with My Vanilla Mom
In this episode, I sit down with my mother, Angela, to explore her journey from growing up in 1960s Ireland to becoming an open-minded, supportive parent. She shares how her traditional upbringing shaped her worldview and how moving to England in her 20s introduced her to a more progressive perspective on sex, relationships, and individuality.
Ep 14 – Exploring the Power of Music and Kink with Deore
In this episode, I sit down with musician and kinky creator Deore to explore the fascinating intersection of music and kink. Known for her bratty sub energy and vulnerable, thought-provoking lyrics, Deore shares how music has become a powerful outlet for self-expression, healing, and connection within the kink community.
Ep 13 – Dating Life Update: Age Gaps, First Kisses, and Some Reflections
Once again, I’m joined by my Business Manager and close friend, Brenda, as we dive into a whirlwind week of my dating life. From navigating an unexpected age gap with a mysterious man, to rediscovering the thrill of a first kiss on a mini-golf date, I’m sharing it all.
Ep 12 – A Sneak Peek Of My Dating Life: Meeting Target Guy
In this episode, I sit down with my Business Manager and friend, Brenda, to unpack my dating life—and trust me, there’s plenty to talk about! We dive into my adventures navigating the modern dating world, from the hilarious chaos of my first date at a Target Starbucks, to the highs and lows of finding meaningful connections today.
Ep 11 – Paws and Play: Understanding Puppy Play with Pup Locrian
In this episode, I had an absolute blast chatting with the amazing Pup Locrian. We dove into all things puppy play, its rich history and how it's different from the furry community.
Ep 10 - Pleasure and Purpose: Catherine Drysdale's Journey Through Sex and Relationship Coaching
This week, I’m thrilled to have a candid and insightful conversation with my dear friend, Catherine Drysdale, a dedicated sex and relationship coach whose passion shines through every aspect of her work. We explore Catherine's unique journey to becoming a coach, the impactful sex education and workshops she offers, and the challenges she bravely navigates as a voice in the sex-positive space.We dive into the hurdles she faces with social media censorship, as well as her innovative methods like group guided masturbation workshops and the use of NLP to help clients release pleasure blocks. Her mission is powerful and clear: to provide support, foster community, and create safe spaces where people can explore, embrace, and celebrate their sexuality.
Ep 09 – Locktober, Chastity Cages, and Other Kinks with Larah Sky
In this episode, I’m sitting down with the fierce and
Ep 08 – A Conversation on Kink, Connection, and Community with Brad Jones of Meet Kinksters
In this episode, I'm sitting down with the incredible Brad
Ep 07 - Spooky, Sexy, Spectacular: Bringing 'Abandon' to Life with Jana Wimer & Robert Bullwinkel
In this episode, I get to dive into the fascinating world of Jana Wimer and Robert Bullwinkel, the creative minds behind the spectacular theater production 'Abandon.' Join us as we explore the show's conception, its deep ties to the controversial Marquis de Sade, and the immersive experience it offers.
Ep 06 - [VIDEO] Building Better Kink Connections: All About the BeeDee App with Founders Pieter and Paul
I’m beyond excited to have Pieter and Paul, the brilliant minds behind the groundbreaking BDSM dating app, BeeDee. We'll dive deep into how the app uses your BDSM test results to algorithmically connect you with compatible kinksters. We'll explore their unique approach to creating genuine and meaningful connections within the BDSM community, and how they overcame challenges to bring this revolutionary app to life.
Ep 05 - BDSM 101: The Do's and Don'ts with Jim and Veronica
Buckle up for a wild ride as I sit down with Veronica and Jim, the power couple of the Las Vegas kink scene. Veronica and Jim spill the beans on their whirlwind romance, from a fast-tracked military marriage to discovering their kinky sides.
Ep 04 - Spanking 101: Balancing Kink, Consent, and Boundaries with AGS
In this episode, I’m joined by AGoodSpankin as we dive into one of the most common yet misunderstood fetishes—spanking. AGS shares his personal journey, from discovering his love for spanking at a young age to becoming a SpankTube content creator. We discuss how he uses his platform and podcast to help others embrace their kinks more openly.
Ep 03 - Answering Your Questions: From Rates to Rules in the Dungeon
In this episode, I answer your burning questions from the first two episodes!
Ep 02 - Into the Dungeon: My First Day as a Dominatrix
In this episode, I’m pulling back the curtain on how I went from a Wall Street Journal desk job to stepping into a dominatrix role I never saw coming. I’ll take you through the nerve-wracking moments of my first day in a Garment District dungeon, where I faced unexpected client requests and discovered a side of myself I didn’t know existed. I’ll also share the adrenaline-pumping experiences that made this the most exhilarating job of my life—and why I couldn’t wait for the next session.
Ep 01 - How I Became the Kink Consultant
Welcome to the first episode of The Kink Consultant! I’m excited to take you on a journey into the world of kink, BDSM, and sex positivity.
About Me
Kink Consultant & Relationship Coach
My work as The Kink Consultant is based on the path I took to embrace my own sexuality. Understanding the source of my kinks and core desires was the first step in my self-acceptance journey. I’ve used this same approach to help other individuals and couples embrace their kinky side.
As a Certified Somatica® Sex and Relationship Coach and Certified Sexologist, I aim to help you uncover a holistic and balanced relationship with intimacy. There is no one-size-fits-all approach and that’s why I’ve developed my consulting method. I want to help you discover your own path to fulfillment!
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Amanda is a Certified Somatica Sex and Relationship Coach , specializing in helping individuals and couples explore intimacy, communication, and connection with confidence. Through a holistic, embodied approach, Amanda creates a safe, judgment-free space to navigate desires, boundaries, and deeper emotional intimacy—transforming relationships and unlocking pleasure in and out of the bedroom.
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Amanda is an American Board of Sexology Certified Sexologist , bringing expertise, education, and compassion to help individuals and couples navigate their sexual wellness. With a focus on empowerment, communication, and pleasure, Amanda provides the tools to explore desires, overcome challenges, and build deeper, more fulfilling connections.
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Your words and photos, unchanged, from your public pages; layout and button labels are mine. Everything you sell stays exactly where it is.
What this site does
- Your public website, in the clean layout: home, Education, Coaching, Podcast, About. Your "As featured in" logos sit right under the first screen, each linking to the article.
- Buy buttons go to your existing checkout pages, so purchases, student logins and your email tool work exactly as today. Nothing changes in your payments.
- Coaching goes to your consult page (www.amandadames.com/book-a-consult), so every client still comes through your paid 20-minute consult and your screening. No direct booking.
- Podcast episodes fill themselves from your show's feed: 108 episodes, newest 22 Oct 2026. Once live, new episodes appear within a day, nothing to update by hand.
- Free guide sign-up, placed higher (right under your press logos) and as a pop-up.
- Your name in every footer. Your Dating Beyond Vanilla page currently ends with "© 2026 Kajabi".
The pop-up and consent
- Shows once per visitor per month, after 25 seconds or halfway down a page, and never again after they sign up. One tap, Esc or a click outside closes it.
- Nobody is added without ticking a box that says "Yes, email me". The site won't accept a sign-up without it.
- Each sign-up is saved with the exact words they agreed to and the date and time, so you have a record if anyone ever asks.
- You get a weekly email listing new sign-ups, plus a spreadsheet anytime. Connecting sign-ups straight into your email list is the next step we'd set up together.
Try it. The sign-up form on this demo really saves. Test entries are kept separate and deleted.
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- Your OK, then your VA points your domain at the new site (two DNS records; I send the exact steps). That's it. Your current pages stay up the whole time.
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